Psychology is one of the best courses I’ve taken during high school. I liked the class because I have great interest in psychology, and I really did learn many things in this class. Even though my grades are not so perfect, but I think I’m getting better each time. The fun part of this class are the different fun activities we had during the semester, like watching how people behave in certain situation, making brain model, take the IQ quiz and watch all those experiment videos. Even know this is a pretty hard course but those activities made it interesting and relaxing.
The bad part of this class is all those quizzes and tests, but I just can’t do anything about it. Probably it just I don’t have the natural talent of taking tests, or maybe it’s because English isn’t my mother language, or etc. Lucky there are some extra credits available for us every time, or I’ll be doomed.
The teacher is another reason I like about psychology. Ms. Halfen is fun lolz. I wish I could improve my grades this year and have the confident to take AP economics next year as a senior. I think she said it wouldn’t be hard. =u=
And finally, just want to say thanks to Ms. Halfen and everyone in my class, I really did enjoyed working with you people this semester.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
psy post~How to Spot a Narcissist！
At the core of extreme narcissism is egotistical preoccupation with self, personal preferences, aspirations, needs, success, and how he/she is perceived by others. Some amount of basic narcissism is healthy, of course, but this type of narcissism is better termed as responsibly taking care of oneself. It is what I would call “normal” or “healthy” narcissism.
Extreme narcissists tend to be persons who move towards eventually cutting others off and becoming emotionally isolated. There are all types of levels on that road to isolation. Narcissists come in all shapes, sizes, and degrees. I would like to address how a person becomes an extreme narcissist.
Narcissism, in lay terms, basically means that a person is totally absorbed in self. The extreme narcissist is the center of his own universe. To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used. It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation/attachment. No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he/she has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood. He/she became emotionally stuck at the time of his/her major trauma of separation/attachment. In my work with extreme narcissist patients I have found that their emotional age and maturity corresponds to the age they experienced their major trauma. This trauma was devastating to the point it almost killed that person emotionally. The pain never was totally gone and the bleeding was continuous. In order to survive, this child had to construct a protective barrier that insulates him/her from the external world of people. He/she generalized that all people are harmful and cannot be trusted. The protective insulation barrier he/she constructed is called a false persona. He/she created a false identity. This identity is not the true person inside. The many types of false personas or identities that an extreme narcissist creates can vary. Some narcissists may have the ability to change into a variety of identities according to the situation. The wounded child inside may choose to present a front as a “bad ass” and tough individual. He/she may look, by appearance, intimidating and scary to the average person. He could also play the “nice guy/person” whom everyone likes. A corporate type version can be one that is diplomatic, proper, and appearing to care but in reality does not. Another very likeable extreme narcissist can be the one that chooses the comedian role. He/she is the life of the party and has everyone in stitches, making them laugh constantly. Everyone wants to include this person because they are a lot of fun. Try to get close or ask personal questions as to how he/she is internally doing and feeling and you will find is that he/she will quickly distract you. They will sidestep the question with another joke, making you suddenly forget what you were asking. Narcissists can be very skilled at dodging and ducking personal questions. If you press them, they will then slot you as “unsafe” and will begin to avoid you and exclude you from their life. There is also the success oriented narcissist. He/she will be your friend and keep you close to him/her as long as you are useful. Once you do not have anything more to offer and he/she has taken all they wanted from you, you are history. You are no longer desired, wanted, or sought.
my thought of this article is that probably narcissists are just being highly optimistic about oneselves. it is a common disorder that are curable. it may not cause harm or anything to the patient, but it could also become a serious problem in everyday life.
Extreme narcissists tend to be persons who move towards eventually cutting others off and becoming emotionally isolated. There are all types of levels on that road to isolation. Narcissists come in all shapes, sizes, and degrees. I would like to address how a person becomes an extreme narcissist.
Narcissism, in lay terms, basically means that a person is totally absorbed in self. The extreme narcissist is the center of his own universe. To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used. It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation/attachment. No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he/she has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood. He/she became emotionally stuck at the time of his/her major trauma of separation/attachment. In my work with extreme narcissist patients I have found that their emotional age and maturity corresponds to the age they experienced their major trauma. This trauma was devastating to the point it almost killed that person emotionally. The pain never was totally gone and the bleeding was continuous. In order to survive, this child had to construct a protective barrier that insulates him/her from the external world of people. He/she generalized that all people are harmful and cannot be trusted. The protective insulation barrier he/she constructed is called a false persona. He/she created a false identity. This identity is not the true person inside. The many types of false personas or identities that an extreme narcissist creates can vary. Some narcissists may have the ability to change into a variety of identities according to the situation. The wounded child inside may choose to present a front as a “bad ass” and tough individual. He/she may look, by appearance, intimidating and scary to the average person. He could also play the “nice guy/person” whom everyone likes. A corporate type version can be one that is diplomatic, proper, and appearing to care but in reality does not. Another very likeable extreme narcissist can be the one that chooses the comedian role. He/she is the life of the party and has everyone in stitches, making them laugh constantly. Everyone wants to include this person because they are a lot of fun. Try to get close or ask personal questions as to how he/she is internally doing and feeling and you will find is that he/she will quickly distract you. They will sidestep the question with another joke, making you suddenly forget what you were asking. Narcissists can be very skilled at dodging and ducking personal questions. If you press them, they will then slot you as “unsafe” and will begin to avoid you and exclude you from their life. There is also the success oriented narcissist. He/she will be your friend and keep you close to him/her as long as you are useful. Once you do not have anything more to offer and he/she has taken all they wanted from you, you are history. You are no longer desired, wanted, or sought.
my thought of this article is that probably narcissists are just being highly optimistic about oneselves. it is a common disorder that are curable. it may not cause harm or anything to the patient, but it could also become a serious problem in everyday life.
5 personality tests
test 1- Jung Typology Test
Introverted89%
Intuitive5o%
Feeling 25%
Perceiving22%
im the tyoe of INFP.my type of person have great curiousity,never lost wonders.they like to switch back and forth between fantasy and reality,which is sometimes what i do,and they usually hide their feelings inside,just like me.i think this test is basically reasonable.
test 2 - Understand yourself
Openness To Experience: Imaginitive, Broad ideas, Open to New experiences. Score:85
Conscientiousness: Responsible, well-organized. I am very responsible most of the time. Score: 77
Agreeableness: compassionate, good-natured, and eager to cooperate and avoid conflict.I hate conflicts, especialy unnecessary conflicts. Score: 64
Extraversion: social abilities, basically. so not me.Score: 38
Neuroticism: wow,guess im a sensitive person? Score: 69
test 3 - Deviant Personality Test
Your score on Lack of Ethics was 3.25. The average score is 3.35.Your score on Dishonesty was 3.67. The average score is 3.89.Your score on Misanthropy was 3.00. The average score is 3.20.Together these traits form what we call the Trusting vs. Manipulative dimension.Your score was 3.23. The average Trusting vs. Manipulative dimension score was 3.46.
Your scores indicate that you are more trusting than the average person taking this test.
Your score on Arrogance was 3.50. The average score is 3.76.Your score on Dominance was 3.36. The average score is 4.13.Your score on Self-Aggrandizement was 4.00. The average score is 4.44.
Together, these traits form what we call Self-Assuredness.Your score was 2.43. The average score was 2.92.
Your scores indicate that you are below average on Self-Assuredness when compared with others.
Your score on Impuslivity was 3.33. The average score is 3.96.Your score on Lack of Feelings was 3.60. The average score is 4.24.
Together, these two traits are considered to form what we call the Hero/Rogue dimension.Your score was 3.43. The average score is 4.01.
Your scores indicate that you are below average on this dimension when compared with others. People with these scores tend to get more frightened than average in emergency situations. They tend to be more harm aversive and law-abiding on average.
i thought i would be like very extreme at some certain part, but it ends up like im just about the normal.
test 4 - Attraction Test
Dimension: Counter-CultureIndividuals who score high on this dimension tend to like women that look mischevious, rebellious, and non-traditional. Low scorers tend to prefer 'nice' girls. Feedback:This characteristic is relatively unimportant for what you find attractive, and you prefer this characteristic about as much as the average person.
Dimension: SeductivenessIndividuals who score high on this dimension tend to be particularly attracted to women that are sexually suggestive and expressive. Low scorers tend to prefer girls that are more modest about their sexuality. Feedback:This characteristic is relatively unimportant for what you find attractive, and you prefer this characteristic about as much as the average person.
Dimension: CheerfulnessIndividuals that score high on this dimension are particularly attracted to girls that look happy, fun-loving, and upbeat. Feedback:This characteristic is relatively unimportant for what you find attractive, and you prefer this characteristic about as much as the average person.
Dimension: IntelligenceIndividuals who score high on this dimension tend to be particularly attracted to women that look intelligent and soft-hearted. Feedback:This characteristic is relatively unimportant for what you find attractive, and you prefer this characteristic about as much as the average person.
Dimension: TrendyIndividuals who score high on this dimension tend to prefer women that are well-dressed and well-groomed, fashionable, urban, and more feminine. Feedback:You tend to somewhat prefer people that have this characteristic, and you prefer this characteristic more than the average person.
those pictures are pretty bad...its not my fault to give them low scores.
anyways tests based on impression with picture cannot be accurate.
test 5 - EQ test
Your Score: 44
35 - 44
You have slightly above average EQ - with room to grow! You are likely sensitive to the emotional climate of the people around you - your peers, friends, family and key clients. You are well aware of the effect your behavior has on others. Still, while you may be adept at tuning into others and their needs - you must remember your own! Don't be afraid to honestly communicate these difficult needs and feelings. The world is well stocked with martyrs - it doesn't need any more! Think also about your passion for work (or whatever constitutes your main roles in life - manager of people, doer of tasks, 'meeter' of clients' needs, etc). We spend countless hours in our given roles - sometimes without much joy or satisfaction. In the process we become tranquilized by the trivial. Sedated by the small details of life. Sure, the laundry needs doing, the groceries need getting, the kids need chauffeuring, the deadlines must be knocked off, but we also need to stop and remember what gives us great joy and meaning. If we fail to remind ourselves (on a regular basis), we risk becoming hostile and cynical. We lose our purpose. And this translates to a diminished ability to be effective, at ease and fulfilled. Areas to work on: Ask yourself: - What situations generally create tension and stress for you? How are you handling these situations? - What negative thoughts play over and over in your mind on a regular basis? Are these a true picture of reality? - Are you afraid to share your needs and feelings with others? Is it because you are taking care of everyone else - being a martyr - or acting 'the strong, silent type'? What 3 things give you the greatest meaning in your life? If you work on gaining clarity in these areas, you will move toward maximizing your full potential and finding greater effectiveness, happiness, and fulfillment in your life. As William James said: I have no doubt whatever that most people live, whether physically, intellectually, or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of their possible consciousness... much like a man who, out of his whole body organism, should get into the habit of using and moving only his little finger... We all have reservoirs of life to draw upon, of which we do not dream.
i think this is kind of reasonable cause i noticed that many questions were kinda critical, and the outcome result is just like what i would evaluate myself.
why would people be curious?
hey Steven:
college is pretty cool. I think its somewhat easier than high school, I mean，you don't have to get up that early and go to class everyday, and come back late at night---that's like, no life, really.
even know there is not much of classes each day, one thing that bothers me is that i still cannot have my own private space sometimes. you know, i live with a roommate, his name is mike and his in the basketball team and blah blah blah, many girls likes him but i don't. he's always too curious about stuff. sometimes he walks into me while i was doing some personal stuff and ask me what im doing, it makes me wanna punch him in the nose. he probably means no harm, but who can depend everything on his peronalities? you and i both went through some stuff in high school, and i bet you should know how ugly some mind can be. besides i ust dont think that knowing to much s even a good thing. like for example, if you somehow knows a extremely important file which is a top military secret, you can probably get yourself killed cause they might want you mouth shut lolz. same thing to me, why should they being curious about what im doing, what i make on exams, and who do i go out with? i wouldn't think i would kill anyone just to keep a secret, but if its worth it, then i probably will.
even now im writing this letter to you, there is a chance that some guy just kicks the door and comes in, looking for mike or w/e. its like, they never learned to respect one's personal life or something. probably me and them are good friends, but thats the bottom line of mine. you know me very will, i bet you can imagine my situation here, it drives me crazy.
sorry to bother your time with all this complains, but you are one of the few people i can really talk with. write me back if your not too busy.
P.S. please send your letter to James at next door. i don't really trust him either, but at least he's not directly involved with my college life, so i guess he would not cause any harm.
Eric
college is pretty cool. I think its somewhat easier than high school, I mean，you don't have to get up that early and go to class everyday, and come back late at night---that's like, no life, really.
even know there is not much of classes each day, one thing that bothers me is that i still cannot have my own private space sometimes. you know, i live with a roommate, his name is mike and his in the basketball team and blah blah blah, many girls likes him but i don't. he's always too curious about stuff. sometimes he walks into me while i was doing some personal stuff and ask me what im doing, it makes me wanna punch him in the nose. he probably means no harm, but who can depend everything on his peronalities? you and i both went through some stuff in high school, and i bet you should know how ugly some mind can be. besides i ust dont think that knowing to much s even a good thing. like for example, if you somehow knows a extremely important file which is a top military secret, you can probably get yourself killed cause they might want you mouth shut lolz. same thing to me, why should they being curious about what im doing, what i make on exams, and who do i go out with? i wouldn't think i would kill anyone just to keep a secret, but if its worth it, then i probably will.
even now im writing this letter to you, there is a chance that some guy just kicks the door and comes in, looking for mike or w/e. its like, they never learned to respect one's personal life or something. probably me and them are good friends, but thats the bottom line of mine. you know me very will, i bet you can imagine my situation here, it drives me crazy.
sorry to bother your time with all this complains, but you are one of the few people i can really talk with. write me back if your not too busy.
P.S. please send your letter to James at next door. i don't really trust him either, but at least he's not directly involved with my college life, so i guess he would not cause any harm.
Eric
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Posttraumatic stress disorder
Case Study 2: Hannah, age 55, was in a major car accident 20 years ago during a cross country trip. Ever since, she has been unable to drive on major highways. Although she does drive, she goes to great length to travel only on back roads and scenic routes. She is able to go where she wants but it often takes her much longer to get there than it should.
Hannah is experiencing the symptoms of Posttraumatic stress disorder.the car accident she has experienced is a life-threatening situation which has became one of her negative memories. whenever she drives on major highways, the scene keeps triggering back her accident memory.
Since Hannah has the problem of fearing accidents,she should first try to drive in a safer situation on the highway,such as not during the rush hour.with practice and doctor's help if needed,she will once again get use to the highway she used to drove on.
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